Stumbling along the path

Epiphany

LazyBuddhist — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 04:05:24 +0000

In my writing group, we give ourselves a writing assignment at the end of each meeting so that even if we haven’t been working on anything else, at least we’ll have our “homework” to share with the group. Last week’s homework assignment was:

Think of a time in your life when something happened that changed your perspective on life. It may have been a conversation, an experience on a vacation, a relationship, a death or birth that happened in your life. Write about it in 500 – 1000 words.

This is what I came up with.

It’s been my experience that true epiphanies are few and far between. You know, like the kind you see in the movies: the camera moves in, the music swells, and after some intense facial emoting, the heroine gets up and rushes away, off to take action on her new found insight. No, for me change usually comes slowly, sometimes stealthily, so subtle I barely notice it. But, there was once when I had one of those big almost cinematic epiphanies (except for of course without the close-up and the swelling music).

At the time I was working as a manager/programmer/data analyst at a small survey research firm in San Francisco. I wore many hats and worked many hours. When I had first started the job, I was working close to 70 hours a week. And I didn’t mind it, at first. Within that very month when I started, not only was I beginning a new job, but I had broken up with my boyfriend of 10 years, stopped drinking, and started therapy. Work became my refuge. I knew my role, I knew my value, and I had less time to sit at home alone and think about my lost loves.

The company was owned by a couple, Kathryn and Michael. They encouraged their staff to think of the company as family. Michael was the loveable, yet absentee dad. Everyone loved it when he was around. But, he spent a lot of time away from the office wooing clients, leaving Kathryn to tend to her flock, which was an interesting mix of the over-educated and street urchins. The Project Managers were almost uniformly PhDs from Stanford, and the telephone interviewers were mostly students, musicians, artists and smart under-achievers. It was a lively, fun and engaging group.

Kathryn, unlike Michael, wasn’t entirely comfortable in her role as a company parent. Sure, on any given day, she could be the cool mom, just hangin’ with the crew, joking around and more than willing to take some of us out for a long lunch. On those days she was capable of immense kindness and generosity. And for someone like myself, who was using work as a life substitute, it was easy to get sucked in and start seeing her as boss, friend & mother. But then there were the Joan Crawford days where she stomped around the office throwing fits about the smallest things. On those days people hid in their offices, staying away from the common areas in hopes they wouldn’t run into Kathryn and become the target of her rage. For a small woman, she was capable of casting a huge shadow over an otherwise congenial workplace.

Over time, Kathryn changed her ways. Instead of terrorizing the entire staff on her bad days, she would single out one person to be in the doghouse for an entire week. If you were in the doghouse, nothing you could do was going to be right. She had a knack for finding the softest, most vulnerable spots in your psyche and then proceeded to take a sledge-hammer to them. If it was your turn in the doghouse, other colleagues would come up and offer solace, a shoulder to cry on, or a stiff drink after work. We all had done our time there.

For me, Kathryn’s form of torture was the silent treatment. She wouldn’t rage, or verbally abuse me. Those I could stand up to. But, she would stop speaking to me altogether. All I would get from her were looks of disapproval or a derisive roll of the eyes. How did she know? How did she know that this had been the way my mother had expressed her disapproval towards me? How did she know that this treatment hurt me more harsh words, ridicule, or even a physical beating? The silent treatment said to me, you’re not even worth wasting my breath on. You do not even exist. Those doghouse weeks were brutal.

Turnover at the company was high. Most sane people were able to see the insanity, and left when they could. Yet, I stayed for four years. My self-confidence had been pretty well ground down by the intermittent soul pummelings. My entire life was wrapped up in my work. I couldn’t see my way out.

That is, until one evening after work. I was on West 580, maybe a mile from my the exit I took to get home. It was dusk, just bordering on night. I don’t remember my thought process or if there was even a thought process. But there it was. My epiphany. I broke out in tears when I finally recognized that Kathryn was not my mother, and that it was not my job to make her happy. Her unhappiness belonged to her and it was not a reflection on me. And perhaps, the longest lasting insight was that work is not who I am. Work will never love me and I should stop expecting it to.

The tears continued into the evening. But, at the end, I felt free. Something had irretrievably shifted.

The next day when I went into the office, I started putting together my resume, made a few phone calls to other research firms with whom I had established relationships. One company had an opening for an Operations Director and they definitely wanted to talk to me about it. Kathryn could sense something was up, so I was squarely put back into the doghouse. This time it didn’t faze me. It was laughable.

After I submitted my resignation, Kathryn ceased to acknowledge me altogether. She refused to come to my going away dinner. It’s a pity. I really wanted to thank her for all that she had taught me, and the skills and lessons I carry with me today.

Breaking the pattern

LazyBuddhist — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 17:59:54 +0000

This is the way it usually goes:

Step 1: stray or abandoned animal shows up on my doorstep or is dumped in my office.
Step 2: I say “No, I do not want/need another pet.”
Step 3: “OK, well, I’ll take care of it until I can figure out another situation for it or find its owner.”
Step 4: said with feigned resignation, “oh, OK, well the other animals have accepted it, so I guess I’m keeping it.”

That has been the pattern for all four of my current pets, and has been the pattern for pretty much all my pets during my during my adulthood. That is, until last week.

One evening, about three weeks ago, my co-worker Patricia texted me – “I found a baby bunny in the park. You want a bunny?” I immediately texted her back. “No, but I can advise you how to take care of it until the SPCA is open tomorrow morning.” “Oh never mind”, she texted back, “we’ll just leave him here tonight and come back tomorrow.” “That would be a death sentence for the bunny – raccoons, dogs, etc. – easy to keep him overnight and keep him safe” I responded back with some urgency. “Oh, OK.” she finally relented.

The next day she told me that her 10 year old nephew was going to keep the little bunny. I kind of cringed when she told me that since children have notoriously short attention spans when it comes to small animals. But, I proceeded to send her a plethora of links on the care and feeding of bunnies, and offered to bring her some hay. I was happy to act as bunny consultant as long as that meant the bunny wasn’t ending up on my doorstep.

But, let’s go back to Step 1, shall we? While I may have avoided having the bunny land on my doorstep, I didn’t dodge having the bunny dumped in my office. As I feared, the nephew showed no interest in actually taking care of the little creature, and for close to a week had kept it exclusively in a 2′ x 2′ Rubbermaid storage box. Well, that’s not completely true, they let it out once, only to have their two foxhounds terrify and attack the little guy.

Patricia brought the rabbit into the office on Monday to let me “see it”. What a cute little guy. It wasn’t a baby like Patricia said, but a full grown English Spotted Rabbit. He looked in good condition, though I quickly saw that she had taken none of my advice re: his litter or food. Once she told me that he hadn’t been out of that box for 5 days, I offered to let him hop around my office for a while, though I still insisted I had no intention of taking him home. Apparently, no one in the office believed me.

I could tell he was so happy to get out of that damn box. He did a few laps of my office, and then proceeded to check everything out. Finally, he stretched out near my feet, looking quite normal and well adjusted, especially for a little guy who had been through so much. And unlike my two bunnies, he didn’t fuss when you picked him up, so we also got in some major snuggle time. What a sweet, sweet little guy. And soft? Insanely soft – made Mr. Binkles feel like a damn brillo pad. But, still, I had no intention of taking the bunny home.

When 5:00 came around, Patricia came in to say good bye to the bunny. “What? No! Listen I spoke with a couple of rabbit rescue organizations and they recommended that you take him to the San Francisco Animal Control Shelter – they work with Save-A-Rabbit. He’ll be fine.” I said somewhat unconvincingly. “Thanks for taking care of Mr. Bunz!” Patricia said as she flounced out of my office. I could have sworn I heard some of my co-workers laugh in the background.

So, now we’re at Step 3. Of course, I could have taken the little guy to the SF Animal Shelter. But, I wanted to talk to Judy, the rabbit rescue lady in Berkeley first. Maybe even try and get him placed with her. But she wasn’t in, so I had no choice but to take the little guy home with me. Really, I had no choice.

When I started the day, I had no idea I would be taking home a rabbit, so I was ill-prepared. But, I figured as long as I kept him away from Mr. Binkles and Mrs. Peabody, everything should be fine. Since the sun room is the only thoroughly bunny proofed room, I put him in there – separate from my two buns, though they were able to see each other. Perhaps that was a mistake. Binkles was FURIOUS. Fit to be tied. Fire coming out of nostrils. That was one pissed off bunny. When I let him out for his free time later than evening, one of the first things he did was to come over and take a big bite out of my arm. Mr. Binkles was not pleased.

Later that evening, I moved the visitor bun into my office where I could close him off and seperate him completely from the other two. But, that didn’t fool Mr. Binkles. As I sat in my office with the little guy, I could hear Binkles pacing back and forth at the door, like some kind of jealous enraged lover. This was not promising.

For the next week I tried to make it work, hoping the Mr. Binkles would eventually calm down. The house ended up being divided into two different turfs: Mr. Binkles and Mrs. Peabody had the front part of the house, while the back part belonged to the visitor. Moving between those two turfs became increasingly difficult as one of the bunnies was always waiting at the door trying to get at the other. And finally it happened. Mr. Binkles slipped underneath my feet and charged towards the little visitor bun. An ugly and ferocious fight broke out. Tufts of fur were flying. Not wanting to stick my hand or my foot into the middle of that melee, I grabbed a shoe and placed it between them. I was then able to pick up the visitor bun, but not before Binkles once again latched himself onto the little one with his teeth. I had a hold of one bun, but I ended up lifting them both up. Grabbing Binkles’ jaw, I was finally able to get him disconnected from the visitor. Everyone got put away for the night so that mommy could take a Valium and try to figure out what to do.

I was finally able to get a hold of Judy, the rabbit rescue lady. She assured me that if I took him to the Berkeley Animal Shelter that after a short holding period he would be transferred to her care. That was the reassurance I needed. I would be able to track the little guy’s progress, even visit him on the weekends until he gets adopted.

After Binkles and the visitor bun got a taste of each other’s blood, their obsession with each other just grew worse. Granted I knew some of this aggression was happening because the little guy wasn’t neutered. And sure, I could have had him neutered, and then after the hormones died down tried to bond him with my other two. That process could have taken two months or more, and even then there were no guarantees they would get along. Step 4 looked like it probably was not going to happen. I hated giving up, but knew what I had to do.

I was surprised how emotional I got when I gave him up to the Berkeley Animal Shelter. He really had a lovely, sweet personality. I was relieved when to see that the woman who handled the bunnies was clearly such a gentle soul. She reaffirmed that after his neutering, he’ll be sent to Judy’s rabbit rescue.

Good luck little guy. I hope you find a permanent home where you can be happy and loved.

What to do about Richmond?

LazyBuddhist — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 21:33:31 +0000

I live in Richmond, California. Yes, that Richmond. The Richmond that often finds itself in the news as a gang-infested hell-hole. It’s not all that unusual to read about a spate of four or five shootings over the course of a night or two. Hell, a couple of years ago it got so bad that there was talk of bringing in the National Guard as a back-up. When many people think of Richmond the words that may spring to mind are “violence”, “poverty”, “gangs”, and, my favorite, “the armpit of the Bay Area.” And now, you can add to that list “gang rape.”

That’s not the Richmond I live in. Like many of us who live in nice neighborhoods in sketchy cities, we identify ourselves by our neighborhood. So, when people ask where I live, I don’t say Richmond, I say Point Richmond just as others may say they live in The Marina, or the Richmond Hills. When I say Point Richmond, the words that spring to mind are “quaint”, “historical”, or “nice”. Yet, here in quaint, historical, nice, Point Richmond, we are less than a mile away from the Iron Triangle and North Richmond, the poorest and most violent neighborhoods around. And Richmond High, the sight of that horrendous gang rape is only three miles away.

My first reaction to the news of that gang rape was incredible sadness. Sad for the victim of such depraved, animalistic violence, and sad for my city that will once again be dragged through mud as a place that breeds young men with no sense of right and wrong, no remorse, and whose basest instincts are given free reign. And yet I also feel sad for those young men who perpetrated this crime. No one wants to grow up to be a monster. No young child says “when I grow up I want to spend most of my life in and out of prison.” Yet, this is the life they, their parents, their community, and their culture have created for them. Of course, they deserved to be punished severely. But, how will that change things? Yes, the community will be safe, for a while, from this particular group of young men. And yes, patrols will probably be increased in that area and new lighting installed. All of that is good and long needed.

But, what about the deeper issues? Is there a whole generation of young men in our midst who have no capacity for empathy or compassion? How do we keep our girls safe, self-assured and strong in a culture where that simply isn’t a priority? How do you instill a respect for living beings and life itself, when clearly, too many see life as cheap, for others and for themselves?

I want to help, yet I am at a loss as how I can. I am not a parent, a social worker, a community activist, or a civic leader. I am simply a citizen of Richmond, California, saddened and horrified at an unspeakably inhumane crime, and what it says about our young men , our city, and the culture that has created them.

Spidertown

LazyBuddhist — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 23:32:19 +0000

No need for faux spiderwebs for Halloween at Chez LazyBuddhist. No, at this time of year, my yard becomes Spidertown.

two spiders do battle outside my kitchen window

I’ve lived in this neighborhood for about 12 years now so I’ve become used to the annual spider invasion. It usually happens in the latter part of the summer or early fall. But, it does seem that each year these damn spiders are getting bigger and bigger. You would think I lived next to a nuclear power plant rather than merely an oil refinery. One big guy has a web that is probably close to three feet in diameter. It’s right next to my walkway, which is fine with me. When he starts to encroach across my walkway? Well, bub, you’ll find out who is the bigger and more dangerous species. With the flick of this yardstick, I can bring down your days of work. So, don’t even think about expanding across my walkways, ‘k?

Sure, now I sound all bold and brave when it comes to my eight-legged friends. And normally, I have a live and let live philosophy when it comes to spiders. But, if I’m surprised by one by walking into its web, or having it lower its creepy self in front of my eyes while driving 65 mph, I become a damn shrieking fool. (And yes, I did have a stow-away in my car reveal itself to me while I was driving over a bridge at 65 mph. I completely and utterly spazzed out for the entire length of the bridge until I was safely across and found a place to park, lept out of my car and fully shook out my clothing, hair and car to make sure he wasn’t on me. I didn’t find him that morning, but I scared him enough to go take cover, only revealing himself a couple of days later when he started spinning a web in the back window of my car.)

Sleeping driveway spider

I’m not the only one who spazzes out when encountering a spiderweb. One fall day a couple of years back, a young. outdoorsy looking man was canvassing my neighborhood for the Sierra Club. I was at the back of the house, so I called out to him to meet me at the backdoor. He walked right into a huge spiderweb and started freaking the fuck out. I tried my best not to laugh, but there was something so deliciously ironic about seeing this big rugged nature boy completely lose his shit when walking into a spider web. I know, bad Buddhist, bad bad Buddhist.

Despite my fear of spiders, I’m not a spider killer. If there is a spider in the house, we strike a deal – you stay over there, and I stay here. And since most of the time they are places I care not to be, we’re cool. I let them have the ceiling, the upper part of the walls, or the basement. Enjoy yourself Mr. Spider. Let us co-exist peacefully. And if he fails to understand our agreement about boundaries, well, that is what the boyfriend is for. He is not a spider killer either, but he is adept at capturing them and taking them outside. Good boyfriend, good good boyfriend.

walkway spider w/ 3 ft wide web

This year one of the spiders have located himself right outside my kitchen widow. Every morning is like my own personal episode of Nature. One morning, there was the turf battle (see pic above) where these two pretty equally matched spiders kept attacking each other. It was fascinating, especially how this one spider would curl up in a ball and play dead. When the other spider came over to poke at him to see if he was still alive, the curled up spider would spring open and start wildly attacking the other one. Unfortunately, that spider that got attacked wasn’t the smartest spider, as he kept falling for the other one’s play dead ploy. I could have watched this for hours, but I had to go to work. When I came home, there was only one spider left – the victor. Now I watch him work on his web in the morning with all the grace of a harpist plucking at the strings.

At a safe distance I can appreciate the effort and workmanship that go into making these massive webs. And that the way I like it – at a distance.

Panic!

LazyBuddhist — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 03:47:20 +0000

I was in my mid-20s when I had my first panic attack. It came out of the blue. I wasn’t involved in something that frightened me, or unnerved me, or any type of thing that you can imagine that would inspire panic. No, I was laying in bed watching TV – something highly familiar and comfortable.

I can’t remember what triggered it. It was probably just a numbness in an arm, or an odd pain. But soon I was feeling as if I was going to lose consciousness. Nay, not merely lose consciousness, but actually die. I needed to get outside where someone may see me or rescue me, some place where I could breathe. My legs felt like they could not support me since they had gone numb like much of the rest of my body. At the time I lived in an apartment complex where I had become friends with one of my neighbors. I managed to ring her doorbell. I couldn’t really describe my symptoms besides, “I’m dying.” I guess she didn’t take me too seriously since she didn’t rush me to the hospital as I expected her to do, but instead rang the doorbell of yet another neighbor, a nurse.

The neighbor-nurse asked me a few questions about my health history, medications, symptoms, etc. The diagnosis came quickly: I was having a panic attack. Despite my mother being an agoraphobic (which is basically the end result of untreated panic disorder), I knew nothing about panic attacks. The neighbor-nurse offered me some orange juice and let me lay down while she gently explained what was happening and reassuring me I wasn’t dying. A half an hour later the symptoms had subsided and I went home, feeling shaken but relieved it was over.

It wasn’t until years later that I had another attack. This time I was older and there were no kindly neighbors to talk me off the ledge. Again, it happened late in the evening while relaxing in front of the TV. First a numbness and then the thought, “oh my god, I’m dying.” I drove myself to the emergency room. I suspected it was just panic – I knew a lot more about it by then – and I just wanted someone to take my blood pressure and tell me I wasn’t having a heart attack. But, it was a busy night, so I spent much of the night in the waiting room. The comfort of knowing there were a gaggle of doctors just beyond that swinging door and the distraction of a busy ER calmed my symptoms quickly. Why I continued to wait, I don’t know. It was probably close to 4 hours before I saw a doctor who, upon hearing my faded symptoms, and my family and personal history, quickly diagnosed panic. My blood pressure was slightly elevated, but nothing to be alarmed about.

In the years since I have gone through periods where I tend to have more panic attacks. Always it is the same: at night, alone, triggered by some minor ache or pain. The type of ache or pain that most people would react with maybe an “ouch” or “maybe I should change my position so my arm doesn’t fall asleep.” Not me, my mind goes from “Ouch! What’s that?” to “No doubt that is symptom of a heart attack, or some kind of blood clot that is going to cause my imminent death.” If I don’t catch it in time with some rational self-talk or mindfulness or distraction or Valium (or all of the above), the next part of the routine is getting dressed in preparation to drive myself to the emergency room. Eventually, I calm down enough so I can start distracting myself until all the symptoms are completely gone.

I don’t know what the point of this post is. I’m tired. I woke up with a cramp in my leg at 2am, which, of course, triggered a panic attack, so most of my night was shot. Sleep has been hard enough these days without adding in the odd panic attack or two. I’ve done the cognitive behavioral therapy thing – I recognize what it is, and that is probably what has kept me from multiple trips to the ER. I’ve done years of therapy, including for PTSD. I think this is just part of the genetic heritage left to me by my mother who, for my entire lifetime with her, rarely ever left the house because of her panic disorder. I know it could be a lot worse, so I guess I’ll just deal with the occasional attack and be grateful it doesn’t control my life.

The Bench

LazyBuddhist — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 20:55:06 +0000

Once upon a time, a long time ago, when I was a wee child, there was no such thing as portable chair technology. When you went to the beach or pool, the adults took, at most, one of those folding A-frame back jacks made of striped canvas and wood. They were handy so the adults could sit up and smoke, or read, or watch the kids (in that order of priority). At home you might find those aluminum webbed folding chairs. But, usually they weren’t lugged around for a mere day at the park or the beach. You might have seen them strapped on the back of a camper or on top of a station wagon on its way to the campgrounds. But, other than that, I don’t seem to recall portable chairs as being an important lifestyle accessory.

Times have changed. Not only in terms of the vast array of portable sitting options, but also in how less portable my ass has become. I think it was shortly after I hit 40 that I said to myself, “self, wouldn’t it be pleasant to sit in a lightweight chair rather than on the ground when enjoying an outdoor concert in the park?” But, being as this was something I only did a couple of times during the summer, it didn’t seem worth the investment. So, I started bringing my meditation cushion with me to these rare events. It worked for a while. It gave me some loft, some cushion and some protection against the occasional rocks and pebbles that one can feel under just a blanket. I tended to resort to a meditation posture whenever I was on the cushion, so as you can imagine after a few hours of sitting like that, it got pretty hard on the knees. Maybe the next summer was time to make that investment in a real chair.

When the next summer rolled around, the boyfriend dragged a couple of small folding concert chairs out of his garage. They belonged to his ex-girlfriend. Now, knowing how cheap his ex-girlfriend is, no doubt these were purchased for maybe a buck a piece at a garage sale, or she raided a “free” pile that had been left outside someone’s house. I went ahead and plopped my ass in one of them just to test it out. While it looked flimsy as all hell, it seemed to work, so we grabbed them and headed off to the San Francisco Blues Festival.

As usual it was a beautiful day at the Blues Festival. It always is. Early Fall is one of the best times in the Bay Area, and is also when a lot of the outdoor music festivals take place. Anyway, I forgot who was on stage when it happened. It’s all a blur. All I remember is that I was sitting back down after grabbing some fish and chips at one of the food stands. Hmmmm. I was so looking forward to digging into my deep fried fish slathered in salt and vinegar. Then it happened. As I sat down the chair fell apart. And there was my ass, my lunch, and my dignity all scattered on the ground. Not only had I lost my beloved fish and chips, but any trust I had in folding chairs, particularly cheap folding chairs, was gone.

The next summer’s music festival season snuck up on me, as it always tends to do. I had not made any progress in getting over my folding chair phobia, and I wasn’t keen on sitting on the ground or my cushion. But, the the boyfriend was not prepared to sacrifice going to the Cotati Accordion Festival due to my neuroses. What to do?

I don’t know who noticed The Bench first. I’m guessing I was the one to jokingly suggest it. After all, who brought their own bench to the park? Yet, The Bench was kind of the perfect size for two people, hella hella sturdy, and small enough to fit in the backseat or trunk. Why not?

When we took it to that first Accordion Festival, it was kind of a hoot. And I walked in proudly with my bench, and almost enjoyed the attention. But, with each summer, with each festival, The Bench went from being a light-hearted jury-rigged solution to an immediate problem to an onerous symbol of my own neuroses and laziness in not going out and getting a decent folding chair. There was really no excuse. I mean, have you seen how far folding chair technology has come?

Finally, this year I went out and got myself a decent folding chair, a reliable, well-tested folding chair. And just in time for the Hardly Strictly Bluegrass Festival (HSB). I was ready. No more lugging that damn, stupid bench. We both had chairs, just like normal people. Yet, since HSB had six stages and there were two stages where we were going to see at least two acts each, the boyfriend claimed he needed to bring The Bench so we could secure a spot at both stages – one we would hold with the folding chairs, and the other with The Bench. Oh crikey.

I’m looking forward to the day when The Bench becomes merely an amusing anecdote, and it takes it rightful place back with its three breathen in the backyard – ready to do its duty as a place to plant my butt during a BBQ. Sorry bench, but if I have anything to do with it, your traveling days are over.

The Bench

NaBloPoMo – a summary

LazyBuddhist — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 20:28:06 +0000

Today is my last NaBloPoMo required posting. Yes, I know, yesterday was officially the end of September, but I started a day late, so here we are.

I’ll admit it was a good way to get back in touch with this, my blog. We had started to become a bit distant. We were only seeing each other maybe 3 times a month. So to multiply that by 10 was definitely challenging. But, as I have proven to myself in the past, I can pretty much do anything for only one month. In fact, NaNoWriMo is coming up in a month . . . I’m considering it again.

So, here is a brief summary of my NaBloPoMo efforts:

No. of days in September: 30
No. of blog postings: 30 (though there was one day that I missed due to a power and then cable outage, but I ended up doing two posts the following day
Posts where I actually wrote about something: 15
Posts where I complain or make excuses about NaBloPoMo: 3
Posts where I complain (non-NaBloPoMo): 3
Posts where I resorted to haiku: 5
Posts where I resorted to haikus where I complained or made excuses about NaBloPoMo: 4
Posts where I filled space with a YouTube video: 2
Posts that were mostly pictures: 2

So, taking a cue from Amurin (as I so often do), I think I’ll throw a poll in here to get your feedback on how I should forward from here.

My frighteningly good health

LazyBuddhist — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 05:42:14 +0000

I can’t remember the last time I got sick. Really sick. Stay in bed and complain sick. I know for a fact that in the last year (probably more) I have not had any colds or the flu – no sore throats, chest rattling coughs or runny nose. I think the last time I got sick was a weird 24 hour flu where I had a fever and nausea, but the next day I was fine. Such a shame because I was totally prepared to go down for the count. I called into my doctor’s office to get some Tamiflu, and had the boyfriend bring in soup and orange juice. I was ready to be sick. Didn’t happen.

When I started working in the medical center about nine months ago, I was certain my first year was going to be filled with lots of downtime as my system got used to being surrounded by god-knows what kinds of germs. Hasn’t happened. In some ways this good health worries me. It’s like I’m saving up all my sick for something big. I don’t want something big. Give me some sniffles, a sore throat, etc. You know, just the standard stuff.

Sure, I did have that bout of sciatica around my birthday. But, musculoskeletal doesn’t really count. That counts as an injury, not an illness.

For the past couple of days I may have somethin’ a-brewin’ inside of me. I stayed home from work today because I just felt . . . I dunno. Tired? After I got up around my usual time, I decided to call in sick for the day and then went back and had some of the deepest sleep I’ve had in ages. And I’ve got a throat tickle going on. So, maybe I got a little sumthin’. Maybe? It doesn’t feel flu-y, which is good. I’ll be getting my flu shots soon, so hopefully, I can avoid the flu again this season. But, a cold, an annoying little cold would almost be welcome.

Take Your Pet to Work day

LazyBuddhist — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 02:51:03 +0000

OK, sure, it’s not an official day, but it totally should be. I mean there is Take Your Daughter to Work day (which later became Take Your Kid to Work day when the boys started whining that they don’t get enough attention). So, why shouldn’t we be able to bring our pets into the office at least one day a year. As long as they are house-broken and well-behaved, I think it would be a wonderful treat for employees and patients alike. And for those with allergies, we’d have People with Allergies Stay Home day on the same day.

Despite the lack of an official day to bring your pet to work, one of my staff brought in one of his dragons (and don’t call them lizards! While K is a very soft-spoken, kind and sensitive man, he’ll go all Komodo on your ass if you call one of his dragons a lizard). So, meet Einstein, the water dragon who hung out at the office today. Very mellow little dude. Pretty much stayed on K’s desk and looked slightly worried. Obviously, the little guy was pretty smart because I’d be worried too if all these strange ladies were coming in and invading my space, cooing and chucking my chin at least once an hour.

Water dragon w/ dying potted plant and dead air plant stick

Water dragon and coy co-worker

I'm ready for my close-up, Ms. DeMille

Weird Monday

LazyBuddhist — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 21:43:20 +0000

Weird day here at the office. Normally, Mondays are a bit crazed. People save up all their crazy over the weekends and then come in and dump it on us. But today? It’s uber-quiet. One of my staff requested to take half the day off because he was bored. Hey, if he has the hours and that’s how he wants to use them, why not?

This stance has apparently made me the hero of other departments where being bored is not a valid reason for leaving early. If someone wants to leave early they need to come up with some kind of elaborate ruse of feeling sick, or having a sick relative, or some other pressing issue. But, is it really worth anyone’s time and money to be hanging around doing a whole lot of nothin’? That’s my philosophy. If you have the PTO (Paid Time Off) earned and you want to take off, and your leaving doesn’t have an adverse affect on business operations, then please go with god, my child.

After only maybe 3 1/2 hours of sleep, I was tempted to call in “tired” this morning. I should have, really. I’ve got 9 weeks of PTO on the books, and a boss who shares my philosophy when it comes to time off.

I don’t know what is going on with me and sleep lately. We used to be on such good terms. But now? When I finally go to bed, sleep doesn’t want to come with me. And when it does finally join me, it decides to leave me around 3 am and want to wander around until 4:30 or so. At 5 am, sleep finally settles down and starts to get deep. But, when the alarm goes off, sleep wants to keep going. So every morning is a damn struggle between sleep and I. There are no winners in this war sleep and I are having.

I’m glad it’s a weirdly quiet Monday so that I can get my requisite blog post out of the way while I’m being paid to sit upright and capable of composing sentences. That frees up my evening to sprawl on the couch and watch “Intervention” and “Hoarders”. Good times. Good times.